Ask Better Questions to Get Success
Why do executives and business owners sometimes struggle to get what they want in work and life?
One reason is they may be asking the wrong questions.
- Why can’t I get what I want?
- Why don’t people see the value I bring?
- Why is it so hard to reach my goals?
- Why are bad things always getting in my way?
The problem with questions like these is that they put you in places where you can’t act.
They put you in a downward spiral of anxiety, doubt and fear. They whack your self-confidence, too.
Change Your Questions
Performance coach Tony Robbins says: “Ask a lousy question, get a lousy answer.”
Lousy questions can’t help you get from where you are to where you want to be.
Here are five better questions that Robbin’s recommends to solve problems and get more success:
- What is great about this problem?
- What is not perfect yet?
- What am I willing to do to make it the way I want?
- What am I willing to no longer do in order to make it the way I want?
- How can I enjoy the process while I do what is necessary to make it the way I want?
When you’re frustrated with where you are, try asking yourself these questions to get out of spin and get to action.
You can reflect on them during your commute to work. You can write about them in a journal.
You can talk them through with a spouse or friend. Working them with a coach can be very effective.
I’ve seen my executive and business coaching clients use these questions to breakthrough to new attitudes and actions.
It’s about asking questions deliberately, with consciousness, versus the usual disempowering questions we default to.
Questions are the gateway to new success in work and life.